How to text a girl you really like?
So, you finally gained the courage to go up to your crush and ask her number. And, she gave it. But you don’t know how to start an interesting conversation in text and keep it going on. Or, maybe you know the basics of how to text a girl but you want to level up your game.
Well, you have come to the right place.
In this article, I will help you to make a good impression on a girl via text and steer the conversation the way you wanted to go. All you have to do is sit back, read and follow what you are about to read to know what to do when it comes to texting a girl that you really like.
Texting A Girl – Dos And Don’ts
Text Her On The Same Day
You should never wait for, say, a maximum of 2 days between getting the number and texting the girl. And you should have a clever opening or else she may never reply at all.
I usually text the girl I like on the same day I get her number. Doing this will let you keep up the momentum that you already have (meeting her on that day) and ensures that she doesn’t lose interest or forget about you.
Some other guy might steal her before you even start a conversation. So, text her on the same day.
Avoid Girly Emojis
Using a lot of girly emojis will ruin all the good impressions that she has on you. Every girl needs a man and if she gave her number to you, then don’t make it seem like you are more feminine than her by sending cheesy emojis every single line of text.
Generally, if someone else read your text and thinks you are a girl, then you probably are using too many f!$#ing emojis.
Now that doesn’t mean that you need to stop using emojis altogether. You just don’t want to overdo it or send really feminine kissy-face ones all the time. Most importantly, use emojis to maintain a light tone and a flirty vibe.
Proofread Your Texts Before Sending
I once sent a girl 🖕 instead of ☝️. She got really pissed.
Try your best not to misspell any word and check the text for mistakes before you send.
Don’t use too many abbreviations since it will make you look like a douche. Sending more abbreviations will also make her feel that she is not in your priority list, because, many people use abbreviations to avoid someone’s text.
Most importantly don’t double (or more) text. It’s annoying.
Don’t Text Her All Day Every Day
This is even worse than being the guy who sends the kiss emojis (😘)all the time. Don’t be obsessed with her.
Being the one who contacts her all day long every day about every little thing, which absolutely nobody gives a shit about, like what you ate for lunch (unless she asks you) or what you’re doing right now or that you got a good a grade on an English test. Nobody cares.
I mean, are you really that boring?
Of course not. So you should text things that are cool and worthy of texting, you know the things that make her a little bit envious, a little bit curious.
Keep Her Interested
Just because you’re not sending her a hundred texts a day it doesn’t mean you want to wait three weeks before you text her again.
Momentum is a huge thing in dating and relationships. If the momentum dies, the relationship or the potential relationship also die. You need to text her enough to keep her interested in you and thinking about you. If you wait too long, she’ll stop caring.
So, share any funny memes that you come across on the internet, chances are she may like it and think you are a funny guy (which is a good thing).
Tease And Flirt With Her
Now you’ve mastered the art of knowing when to text her. Nextly, you want to make sure that your texts are actually useful (to start a relationship/get laid). So, don’t be afraid to tease her or flirt with her.
Your emoji-game should be on point so she knows you’re just messing around. Just make sure that you don’t send her something creepy thinking that you are being flirty. Emojis you should use- 😏 😉 😂 😆 😜 🙃
You can tease her about the little things she does or says because it shows her that you don’t put her on a pedestal. Also, it shows her that you are confident enough to tease her when other guys just suck up to her (haha, nice guys).
Send Her Complimenting Texts
This might sound a bit strange, but trust me, girls love genuine compliments from guys, even on texts. All you have to do is not being creepy.
Compliments only work during the first time you are conversing with her after getting her number. You can compliment her hair, outfit, smile and her sense of humor – just all the good things you can remember from the encounter earlier that day/night. Doing this, you can stand out from the regular guys who text her “You look sexy, baby”.
Don’t Always Text Her First
Everybody knows that girls never text first. So, at the start, you may have to text her first a couple of times. But, once she finds you interesting she will start texting you first. This is her signaling you that you are boyfriend material. Now, you might have to stop texting her first always.
Bonus Tip: You don’t have to quickly reply every time you receive a text from her or else she will think that you really don’t have a life.
Never do a wrong by bringing up complicated topics (religion, politics, and physics 😝) in texts. This is bad, because if you are talking to the girl in-person then you can switch the topic if she is not interested, but in texts, there is a lot of chance that she will ignore your text and make you look like a stupid. So make your texts very casual and interesting.
Just listen and get to know more about her by asking her some open-ended questions. By doing this you can excel in your first date as you know so much about her already.
Mirror Her Texting Style
Every girl has her own style of texting and you can make this your advantage.
The trick is to mirror her texting style. By this way, she will start liking you more subconsciously. This is because we tend to like a person who is just like us.
For example, if the girl sends you funny images, gifs, or videos, you should do the same to her for time to time.
Talk About What She Likes
If you have been talking to her for a few days now, then you must have learned something about her interests / what she likes. So, all you have to do is talk about things that she likes.
What’s even better? Find subjects that both of you like and talk about it. This is an easy way to build interaction and you will not be bored as you also like the same topic.
By following this, you can play it safe, since it won’t lead to any arguments.
Don’t Be Afraid To End The Conversation
Don’t text her unnecessarily. If you don’t know something don’t pretend as you know about it and build a conversation, which is going to be useless.
If you feel like you have talked enough for the day then don’t fear to end it. Even ending the conversation before the girl does will make her want you. But find a way in which you can spend more time texting her.
For example, if the girl is in your class and is also good at science, you can just ask her if you have any doubts. This will build a vibe and you have a reason to text her whenever you needed to.
Set Up A Date
Meanwhile, don’t forget what you’re actually trying to do here. You’re not looking for another text buddy. You’re looking for a chick to go out with.
Use texting as a way to set up plans. It’s better than calling because it lets her reply whenever she’s free.
Imagine that you call her and she doesn’t answer. Bruh!!! It already sets up the tone that you’re the one who wants to go with her when the tone you really want is that both of you want to go out with each other.
List Of Things You Should Never Send
“Did you get my text?”
Everyone gets your f!$#ing text. You should be patient enough to wait for her reply or you should just move on. Not every girl will respond back as soon she gets a text from a guy (You). Even if she has planned to reply after some hours or days (ah! painful), seeing the “Did you get my text?” message will turn her down and chances are she won’t reply to you at all.
Can you think of something that’s not boring?
You: What's up? Her: nm (nothing much) *THE END*
Instead of sending her a lame “what’s up?”, ask her how her day was or some interesting question that actually has something to do with her. This shows her that you are a smart guy with good small talk skills.
This is something most of the guys do to get a girl’s attention. The girl you are texting is online but not replying. So, you genius send this text – “You there?” – thinking that she will at least see this and text you back. Haha, come on.
If you are that guy, then you should really get a life and move on!
Good Morning/Night Text
Now, this doesn’t mean that you should never be nice to a girl at all. It means that you should not start a conversion with a good morning or good night texts.
Dos and don’ts for some hypothetical cases.
- You send a Good Morning text the second after you wake up. But, she is not awake and she wakes up at 1 pm in the afternoon and sees your Good Morning text sent 6 hours ago. Ah, cringey.
- It’s 10 pm and you see the girl is online. So you decide to start a conversation by dropping a Good Night text. She sees it. Then????? Now she is in a state of confusion whether to send back a Good Night text and start a conversation or just go to sleep after seeing that Good Night text.
- Avoid starting a conversation with a good morning text at all costs unless she sends one and you happen to be online. This is one case where you can greet her with a good morning.
- If you are already conversing with a girl and you decide to end the conversation and go to sleep, then you can send a Good Night sleep tight text.
Too Many Questions
If you can frame questions, which is good, just save them all in your head and use it whenever the right time comes. Just don’t ask her multiple questions at the same time. It’s not attractive.
Unless the girl you text is a THOT, she will not like the picture you send. So, don’t send pictures of your junk unless she asks you to send it.
ALL CAPS TEXT
In texting and email etiquette, sending a message in all caps tells the receiver that you are shouting out louder. So, always check whether the caps lock is on before you text. Or else you will come across as another rude creep trying to get into her pants.
Most of the time drunk texts are booty calls. So, it’s better to avoid texting/replying to anyone if you are wasted, because, you are out of your mind.
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